ladies only: five reasons why every woman deserves girl time

in the past year my friends and I have shared many good times – most of them with our guys.  this past Saturday however, it was just us and it was one of my favorites. three of my very best friends and I had a seriously good time… just being girls.  it wasn’t your conventional GNO type feat –dressing scandalous, hitting the bars and going all crazy for a few hours, etc. (we’ll save that for later).  it was far more chill – a winery, chocolate tasting and shopping.  

after such a great day I’ve decided that every woman: married, a mom, single or otherwise attached needs a day to herself every once in awhile and here’s why: 

1) we value our friendship… enough to make the time.  when you make a point of dedicating time to be with your girls your making a statement about what’s important. sure I could come up with a thousand reasons why I can’t make a girl date work but by making it a priority I’m sending a message that our time together matters.  if your kids wear mismatched outfits, your husband has to sustain himself on Spaghettios, an errand isn’t run or the dog doesn’t get a walk oh well!  it’s one day; just a few hours every now and again.

2) we rely on our friends…to tell us things.  usually it’s the same things our parents, significant others or colleagues tell us but it’s just different when it’s a girlfriend.  I have a bestie who has no problem telling me I look ridiculous in something without offending me but, if my husband or mom would say the same thing I’d be stunned.  we just have a way with each other and thank goodness because that same gal has saved me from many a fashion faux pas! (if only I had a picture of that hideous white lace romper I nearly bought.) 

3) science says…it’s good for us!  it has been scientifically proven that our physical health and well-being benefit from having solid friendships.   they are the support system we need to relieve stress and share laughs and women just get other women.  our girlfriends understand when you want to vent and can empathize with what’s going on.  when you’re with your close friends your guard is down; you can speak your mind, dish about drama and know that it’s a safe place to spill it all or get ridiculously silly without judgment.  i mean who doesn’t love a good bitch session or a vulgar conversation every once in awhile?    

read on for more benefits here:

http://www.nextavenue.org/blog/why-girlfriends-are-good-woman%e2%80%99s-health?utm_source=more&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=more

4) we like to feel….pretty, confident and desirable.  alive!  you know that dress that you bought last season that you still haven’t worn; the one that hugs you all the right places?  or those shoes that just seem too dressy for most events in your life but you just had to have?  get ‘em out, put ‘em on and let your girls boost your confidence because let’s face it you probably look phenomenal, even if it’s completely over the top!   I’m a total diva when it comes to going out.  I want to look as good as possible since most days you can find me at home in shorts and a tee.  when I have a reason (like a girl's night/day out), I dress up.  and when I dress up I feel good, I feel hot, I feel confident.  and those feelings translate to other areas of my life; benefiting those closest to me, especially Cody! ;o)

5) we love the way it feels…when it’s over.  a girl date really does enhance other relationships.  I always come back feeling refreshed and grateful.  I love and appreciate my husband more and I’m more willing to do things for and with him that I wouldn’t have otherwise.  time with my girlfriends reminds me that I’m still the fun-loving girl my husband fell in love with.  my friends, their stories, their rants and our conversations remind me that I have a pretty good life!! 

get out there!