how is it we can live in such a connected world yet have so much distance?
i've been asking myself that question since Cody and i started getting noticeably busier a few months back. we’ve been going non-stop since last spring and to be honest it’s made us more mechanical. we go through the motions just to get through the days and weeks, eager and excited about the next ‘big thing’ while making a conscious effort to enjoy the moment. sure, we don’t have kids but, all of that concentration and planning, our work demands, the chores, errands, and life in general have led us to many nights of plugging in and tuning out any moment we get the chance. that chance is usually in the evening, which used to be ‘our time.’
this month though i decided enough was enough and made a plan to ‘date’ my husband. while I won’t go as far as to demand a complete disconnect at night i’m planning ‘dates’ that will help us to reconnect and tune back into our relationship without making it a chore. we have so much going on that sometimes it’s easier to be at home with the other and just ‘be’ but, in order to be stronger and better we have to go out of our comfort zone. we have to challenge ourselves to have more conversations, to be more engaged in each other’s lives, and to share experiences that will continue to keep us close.
we’ve already gone on a few ‘dates’ and i’ve definitely noticed a difference! we’re talking more, being more playful, and solving new problems. we’re developing our own sense of resiliency. we flirt, touch, and love up on each other constantly these days. i continue to learn about how complex a creature my husband is; he’s just so fascinating! and through our experiences i appreciate his candor, humor, and wittiness more now than i did when i met him. i don’t think you should ever stop dating your spouse. i’d be missing out on so much if i did!
so now I challenge you to do the same – date your spouse! connect, reconnect, explore, experience, and challenge each other – see where it takes you.
for ideas here’s our 'date' list:
go for a hike
work on a home improvement project (or two)
attend a local football game
do a photo shoot
workout together / run a race
try a new recipe
enjoy a candlelit dinner at home
vote together (yep! turned that into a date!)
visit the library and enjoy a hot beverage
cuddle up on the couch and watch a movie
go to a late movie
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